The Sadistic Individual Part 2

Ahem, I am finishing this post just for the sake of finishing, cause I dont have the necessary inspiration to post about sadism, AT PRESENT.

Where Was i? I even forgot the context, thanks to Eweek. Hmmm, after being National champions yet again, who cares to write about sadism.



But all said and done, a certain amount of sadism and masochism exists in every human being. Take ragging for example. Most people consider it as an innocuous act, designed to break the ice between seniors and juniors. Rather, it breaks everything(bones for eg) but the ice. If this is not sadism, then what is? We enjoy watching other people get humiliated. We take delight at other people's pain. But when we are at the receiving end, we expect others to show pity on us. This thought is pathetic. Beating or hurting someone else, gives us a kind of temporary pleasure, hard to define in words. It gives us a feeling of superiority, of power. That we have the power to inflict damage upon others. Never mind the fact that the 'other' is just a helpless victim unable to defend himself.

Then again comes the ego problem. 99% of all guys I have met suffer from it. They refuse to budge from their view-point under any circumstance. Even if they are wrong, they refuse to admit it. Pride to a certain extent is okay, but beyond that its only plain hubris. Ego and Sadism are linked as well. People with extremely high egos tend to be more sadistic. Plus the general thought is, 'If I have to go down, I will take him/her down with me.' Which is very stupid, according to me.

More often than not, a sadistic individual ends up hurting both another person and himself. Though at the time of committing the act, he does not realize it. Many a time, he ends up repenting when its too late. By the help of meditation and yoga, one can learn to control his emotions. The one thing to keep in mind is, 'Never act on immediate impulse.' Ie what we call as Josh. Its always better to be slow, calm and rational, rather than fast and fallacious. When the feeling of causing others harm rises, suppress it immediately. You can try thinking of the ramifications of committing that act.

For example, you have recently had a break up. But that girl is still on good terms with you. However, the sadistic individual rises inside you, and you want to send her a volley of slangs, parceled in a sms, or email. Before you realize it, you have clicked on the send button, and its too late to amend your nefarious act. Now she even stops talking with you, and ignores you. Making the situation even worse than before. Learn to gain self control.

Thats all for now. Looking forward to Aarohan 2010. :)

The Sadistic Individual Part 1

Well, I have been thinking about this for quite some time now, the element of
sadism which i believe is ubiquitous. It is there in all of us, though few of us realize it.

Consider this: was there a time when you felt a surge of jealousy when your classmate scored higher than you? Am taking the most simple example. Did you not wish then, that you should have scored higher, that you deserve more since you are a better student. Such envy is usually innocuous. But it can take more complicated forms.

The desire for revenge is yet another sadistic situation. Say a guy has been rejected by a girl. Or better still, he is involved in a break up. But he can't forget his ex-girlfriend, nor can he forgive her for leaving him, even if the break up resulted due to his fault and not hers. What does he do? Just leave her alone in peace? Perhaps, but rarely done. What he does instead is to hunt her out, and try to make sure that she suffers as much as possible. He just wants to inflict as much pain as he can, for he cannot accept the fact that he has been rejected.

Few of us actually have the capability to forgive a person who has wronged us. An eye for eye will make the whole world blind. Thats why blindness is on the rise, I suppose. Keeping grudges has become the latest trend, and blaming others takes the credit as well. Whenever we get frustrated, instantly we raise a finger at someone else. But rarely do we accept the fact that we did something wrong, and move on.

*To Be Continued